Skip to main content

Relationships Match: They’ve never lived together – for 20 years and counting

Sharon Hyman and David Demetre met in 1999 but don't live together.

Handout

Match profiles an interesting couple each week. Interested in being featured? Share your story at match@globeandmail.com

Who: David Demetre, 63, retired aerospace designer/musician; Sharon Hyman, 56, filmmaker

Relationship status: Together since 1999

Story continues below advertisement

Location: Montreal

SWM seeking feisty fictional redhead

Sharon: I was researching a film and one of the characters was single. This is way back when there was telepersonals. One after next it was these really cheesy guys – “hey ladies,” and that kind of thing. And then suddenly there is this guy who sounded totally different.

David: I think I said something about how I was looking for the Anne of Green Gables …

Sharon: He did! And I have always identified with Anne, so I just couldn’t believe it. I left him a message with my e-mail. For the first few months that’s how we communicated.

David: It was an old fashioned courtship. We learned a lot about each other that way before we had even met. We would give each other homework, like “name your five heroes.”

Sharon: When we finally did meet, I was a bit nervous – who is this Albanian-American from Seattle who has moved to Montreal? I made him give me his sister’s phone number as a reference.

David: That’s true. She actually called her.

Story continues below advertisement

Match: ‘I was not wealthy … she had great legs’

Match: The couple who are a 99-per-cent match

Match: A couple almost as passionate about nudism as they are about each other

Being together, living apart

Sharon: At first living together didn’t come up because we had such different schedules. David would be up at 5 a.m. for work whereas I’m an artist and I tend to stay up late. In those early years, we went to a few open houses, but eventually we just decided wait – things are kind of great as they are.

David: We both enjoy having time to ourselves. I like to play my guitar and read. Sharon likes to have her friends over and spend time with them and those aren’t things we need to be together for. I think we both just like having our own space.

Sharon: I always say, I wasn’t looking for a roommate, I was looking for someone to go through life with. We share emotional space. And we have never had a single fight about chores. How many couples of 20 years can say that?

David: Some people have this sense of, you’re not a real couple – you’re just friends with benefits. But we have shared all the big things: illness, deaths in our family.

Sharon: I had a serious illness and David basically moved in for three months. When I had the flu he left soup and saltines and ginger ale at my door. That’s my idea of romantic.

David: It’s a little easier to be romantic in our situation. We still go on dates. We still get excited every time we’re going to see each other.

Story continues below advertisement

Sharon: It’s true. My heart pitter-patters. I do have a heart arrhythmia, but that’s not the reason I get excited.

Live your best. We have a daily Life & Arts newsletter, providing you with our latest stories on health, travel, food and culture. Sign up today.

Report an error Editorial code of conduct
Due to technical reasons, we have temporarily removed commenting from our articles. We hope to have this fixed soon. Thank you for your patience. If you are looking to give feedback on our new site, please send it along to feedback@globeandmail.com. If you want to write a letter to the editor, please forward to letters@globeandmail.com.

Welcome to The Globe and Mail’s comment community. This is a space where subscribers can engage with each other and Globe staff. Non-subscribers can read and sort comments but will not be able to engage with them in any way. Click here to subscribe.

If you would like to write a letter to the editor, please forward it to letters@globeandmail.com. Readers can also interact with The Globe on Facebook and Twitter .

Welcome to The Globe and Mail’s comment community. This is a space where subscribers can engage with each other and Globe staff. Non-subscribers can read and sort comments but will not be able to engage with them in any way. Click here to subscribe.

If you would like to write a letter to the editor, please forward it to letters@globeandmail.com. Readers can also interact with The Globe on Facebook and Twitter .

Welcome to The Globe and Mail’s comment community. This is a space where subscribers can engage with each other and Globe staff.

We aim to create a safe and valuable space for discussion and debate. That means:

  • Treat others as you wish to be treated
  • Criticize ideas, not people
  • Stay on topic
  • Avoid the use of toxic and offensive language
  • Flag bad behaviour

Comments that violate our community guidelines will be removed.

Read our community guidelines here

Discussion loading ...

Cannabis pro newsletter